🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️OWNERSHIP & ACCOUNTABILITY
Having to front up to something our not proud of is just like holding in a fart, there’s so much pressure and uncomfortableness until you let it out and feel instant relief -although there is a high possibility of judgement and/or utter embarrassment, we must stick to the motto ‘better out than in’
It may stink for a bit but the air will clear eventually.
No one likes to admit defeat, nor fess up to a mistake but passing blame or keeping it from who needs to know is no good for our health and just bad juju.
I hate when I f**k up, I instantly do a 🤦🏽♀️ in my head, and if it’s real bad I face palm in real life and mutter multiple profanities.
However, over the years I’ve learnt there is nothing to gain from sweeping things under the mat so to speak. I’ve come to the realisation that we can legitimately learn from our mistakes. Not only do I gain knowledge from my errors, I can sometimes even find a way to reconcile an issue and become part of the resolution.
By fessing up and working through it, I know next time what to avoid and the best action plan.
It’s like when you accidentally put salt in the cake batter rather than sugar, you soon f**ken realise that it just ain’t right. You’re the chef, so you can fix it. Start a fresh batch.
If there’s something you may have said or done and it’s eating away at you, you may find peace in letting it out.
You can’t always expect a good reaction, but this is part of growing and holding accountability for your own choices and actions -admittedly it’s not always satisfying, however it is relieving.
Depending on the circumstances, the best possible outcome stems from being honest.
This can also sometimes mean being accountable for something we have been completely blind to, a certain way we act, or way we treat people without realising. Being open to constructive criticism and admitting we are now aware of how that made that person or people feel.
I legit have resting bitch face, I look so shitty and have a permanent glare to my baggy eyes. I’ve been told this many times, I may not look approachable, although I most likely can’t change this as being a b**tch can come quite naturally to me, I’m aware of it and I indeed own it. Had it not of been bought to my attention, I may not have known this is how I could be perceived. I was blind to a way I was acting, I had criticism on it, and I try to use it constructively. 👀
Releasing the pressure on yourself and constructively repairing any damage that a mistake you made may have caused is soul soothing, the release of any background guilt is rejuvenating, learning from your mistakes and being accountable is a normal part of life.
Every action has a reaction 🙌🏽
Put your big kid knickers on and take it like a pro!
And don’t you dare lie to yourself and pretend that bubbly fart doesn’t feel amazing 💨💩
I learnt a mnuemonic from a fellow Ambo years ago that has help me over the years. It is ipda, I.P.D.A. These letters have helped me carry out what I need to do, and although the first three letters are easy, it is the prompting the last letter means that is the hardest for people to do.
I – Identify the issue.
P – Predict / perceive what or where this will go.
D – Decide on a action that needs to be done.
A – Act upon it…. as hard as it is you need to act.